Just Le PigBat passing through
Gerard Way has announced that he and his band will be playing two shows in Japan this coming February. Tickets go on sale October 11th and you can view the dates below.
I missed when everyone got into Gerard Way in a non-ironic way. Must have happened when I was away from the computer while I was home. Didn’t Ian play with him or something on a recent tour-ma-bob?
I wonder if Ian will join him in Japan. I mean, of course the shows are on the other side of the country, but I might be able to find a museum or research opportunity to make a trip more worthwhile.
I think tumblr has left a lot of us emotionally stunted. This is a great community for empowerment, catharsis, or coping, but those things aren’t recovery in and of themselves. Comparatively, they’re easy when compared to the painful self-reflection and real-world scenarios you’ll have to encounter on the road to true recovery. Not only does Tumblr not focus enough on recovery, but there’s almost a disdain here for the very notion.
There’s a lot of time spent validating everything. “Your symptoms are valid! Your responses are valid! Your depression is valid! Your coping is valid!” Well, yeah, all that stuff is definitely valid, and understanding that is important step in recovery, but it’s certainly not the final step. All that stuff is valid in the same way a baby chewing on a teething ring is valid, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about if your recovery is still in its infancy, but Tumblr almost encourages you to stay there, to never grow out of it.
There’s a difference between what’s valid and what’s healthy, what’s best for you. I recently saw a post that validated people who stay in their room all day. Is that a valid response to anxiety? Sure. Is it a healthy response? Hell no, and there isn’t a person on Earth who can convincingly make the argument that the best thing you can do for your anxiety is to never leave your room.
Or how about those “how to care for a _________” posts? They’ve got some great tips there, and a lot of what they say is true, but you cannot reasonably expect people to coddle your issues, insecurities, or self-perceived inadequacies. Your recovery has to come from you. It has to be a difficult decision you make with yourself and carry through with because you need it. Your recovery can’t come from hoping other people will validate you.
No one should be ashamed of where they are in their recovery process, but there’s also no reason why you should be in the same place with your issues as you were in 2010.
Your final goal is not validation. It isn’t empowerment. It isn’t finding a way to get through the day. It isn’t being comfortable with your problems, nor is it accepting that they’ll never go away. The final goal is health. The final goal is happiness. The final goal is contentment. The final goal is recovery.
this is what i just picked up from the grocery store. it cost $32. Thirty. two. dollars. for 1 pineapple, 2 bags of grapes, a small container of raspberries, 1 soft drink and 2/$1 nuts….
do you know how much junk food i could have for $32? do you have any clue how much McDonald’s you can get for $32?
stop shaming fat people poorer than you or people poorer than you in general for not eating healthier. stop lying about how cheap it is or how it’s comparable to fast food. just stop.
Where the crap are you shopping? The Ralph’s in Westwood that jacks the prices because it’s between Bel Air and Beverly Hills?
$32 can buy me a whole 4 days worth of food here in Japan, and the cost of living in Japan is waaaaay higher than America. True, I fill the volume of my yakisoba with discounted meat and I eat a lot of dishes that rely on cabbage and rice, but still this round of posts that is saying “buying food is expensive; I have to eat like crap because I’m poor” is really and truly pissing me off. What you eat is 100% a choice that you make, and yeah it’s not easy to eat properly when you’re on a budget, but it’s not impossible. It takes time, both in the amount of time you cook and the amount of time you spend shopping around so that you make good buying decisions. I get my produce from one grocery store and my meat from another one because the respective prices are better at each. I buy my pasta sauce from Sunny because they import American sized jars for the same price as Japanese sized ones. I know that if I’m headed home after 7pm I should stop at Youme Town instead of Aeon because they have their fish listed at 50% off instead of 20%. It’s not easy, but I make eating right a priority in my life because it’s a choice I have made. Stop looking for reasons to not be responsible for your choices. Yeah, sure, don’t shame someone because they’re fat; that’s not cool. But also don’t give up on the prospect of eating a well rounded diet just because you don’t want to put in the effort.
And don’t try to tell me that my privileged ass doesn’t know what it’s like to eat on a budget. Yes I receive a scholarship, but after rent, utilities, and tuition are taken out, I have to regularly survive on $400 a month. And that’s for everything. Oh, I need to buy a $70 book because I desperately need it for my research and our library doesn’t have it? Guess I’ll have to eat more plain white rice for a week or two. Oh, my bike got a flat tire and now I have to fix it? Guess I can get by with meat-less okonomiyaki. Oh, my classmates want to go out for a drink to celebrate an accomplishment? Well, I’ve been good this month, so maybe I can afford one beer. And, as I mentioned above, the cost of living in Japan is really freaking high. My rent and utilities run just around $500 a month, and I have probably 250 square feet to show for it, which includes the bathroom and closet. But despite all this, I still choose to make eating right a priority for myself because it’s something I value. So, that’s totally cool that you don’t value eating right in the same way that I do, but stop making posts that blame it on your financial situation. Own up to your choices in life and stop buying the most expensive things you can find in order to try and make a point. You’re the one that wasted $32 to try and get some sympathy notes.
Lawson’s Select is actually pretty decent and alright priced. I don’t often buy my ice cream from there, but when I do I don’t regret it.
but only in the form of haikus
I’ll even give you tanka form to play with if you really need the extra lines.
A tanka is 5-7-5-7-7. It’s the predecessor to the haiku.
if you don’t terrify people a little bit then what’s the point.
ATTENTION: SIGNAL BOOST THE SHIT OUT OF THIS RIGHT NOW. THIS IS NOT OK I HAVE FOUR DOGS AND I WOULD KILL THE BASTARD WHO TRIES TO HARM THEM OR ANY OTHER ANIMAL. SIGNAL BOOST PLEASE.
KEEP ALL ANIMALS INDOORS ON HALLOWEEN
Whether or not this Pit Bull thing is legit (it probably is—people love any reason to kill Pits), it’s just a good idea to keep all your animals—dogs, cats, whatever—indoors on Halloween evening and night.
There are some really gross people out there who will use Halloween, or the night before Halloween, as an “excuse” to kill domestic animals for fun.
I had a friend who left her cat outside during the day on Halloween and didn’t make it home until after dark, and by the time she returned someone or a group of people had killed it. Don’t take any chances with your pets.
Well, I mean, you should always be careful with your pets, especially at night, because that’s just called being a good pet-owner. But snopes has confirmed that this was a hoax. True, a sick, demented hoax, but a hoax nonetheless.
So, be careful, but as long as your pets are around you and in eyesight, they should be fine.